Category: Neuroscience-aligned
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Guy Stephens
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What Happened Before That Moment?
Sometimes a small sign says a lot about how we think about children. Today I walked past a table with a sign that said: “All emotions are okay, but not all child behaviors are okay.” And I stopped. Because that phrase gets repeated in education spaces as if it’s wisdom. People nod along like it’s…
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Guy Stephens
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Choice Doesn’t Fix It: Why PBIS Still Harms Kids
When I was a little girl, I didn’t speak until I was four years old. I remember the way adults looked at me—like I was broken, like my silence defined me. They didn’t see the potential bubbling beneath, only the ways I failed to fit the mold. That early experience taught me something I carry…
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Guy Stephens
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My Journey: Heart-Strong International Changemakers for Children
This past week, I was very proud to receive my certificate in the Heart-Strong International Changemakers for Children course, taught by Sandi Lerman. Signing up, I already knew that anything Sandi and Heart-Strong International had put together was going to be amazing! AASR has a long-running relationship and collaboration with Sandi and Heart-Strong International, including…
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Guy Stephens
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It’s All Just Part of the Routine: How Touch Becomes Restraint in Early Childhood Education
Every child deserves to feel safe in their body. Every early educator wants to be someone a child can trust. If we truly want to build environments rooted in care, we have to be willing to pause, reflect, and make changes. There are amazing, wonderful things happening in early childhood education settings every day. I…
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Guy Stephens
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Awareness and Repair: We All Experience Dysregulation
Sometimes, when learning about the neuroscience behind human behavior, we mistakenly think that dysregulation is this big bad thing that should always be avoided. We think that the only way to keep ourselves and our children feeling safe is to become experts at only experiencing regulation. We think that regulation means being calm or happy. …
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Guy Stephens
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From Tough Love to Trauma-Informed: An Educator’s Journey Toward Transformational Teaching
Twenty-six years ago, I began my teaching career with a passion for making a difference and the advice, “Don’t let them see you smile until January.” My first position was teaching third grade in a predominantly Black, low-income community. I entered the classroom ready to love my students and lead them with firm expectations and…
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Guy Stephens
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Neurodivergent Students Don’t Need a Calm Corner, They a Whole Classroom Rooted in Calm, Connection, and Compassion
“Just make a calm-down space in your room!” they say, as if emotional regulation can be solved with a bean bag chair, a glitter jar, and a cute sign that says “breathe.” But here’s what so many people miss: when I’m dysregulated when my nervous system is in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn I’m not…
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Guy Stephens
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Rewards in Schools: Not the Same as a Paycheck, and More Harmful Than Helpful
Today, many educators rely on systems of rewards—such as tokens, stickers, or points—to gain student compliance. Of course, we believe that compliance is the wrong goal, but that is a topic for another article. The truth is that rewards or positive reinforcements are a common part of approaches such as Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports…
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Guy Stephens
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We Don’t Understand You: Understanding Trauma Matters
For the longest time, humans knew next to nothing about the organ that resides in their own skull: the brain. A vital organ that controls our actions, thoughts, and behaviors. A price of misunderstanding the workings of the brain has led to detrimental effects, like traumas known as Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). From a multitude…
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Guy Stephens
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From Compliance to Compassion: My Journey Beyond Crisis Intervention
For more than a decade, I’ve worked with students whose behaviors often challenge the systems around them. I was good at it. So good that I was often chosen to train others in crisis intervention. I taught professionals how to use physical holds and seclusion techniques under the guise of keeping students “safe”. And I…
